Alright ya’ll (my mom is moving to South Carolina, I am practically a southern belle, don’t judge me) – where was I? Oh right – alright guys (better?) this is not a typical post of mine but I couldn’t help but notice that most of my friends, people I have graduated with, cousins, people on the street, and you reading this, are either married or getting married, or know someone who is married or currently walking down the aisle as we speak (except moi, but SOON. COME ON ANTHONY. I win at subtleties, hehe). I’m not bitter or anything … rather I don’t want to face the fact that wedding season has arrived which means the little voice in the back of my head pushing me to be more “adult-like” (whatever that means *eye roll*) is nagging again.
Actually, no lie, I ~*love*~ weddings. I love attending weddings, I love helping to prepare for weddings, I love wedding food (don’t kid yourselef; you know you’re only RSVPing because the bomb wedding food and all you can eat/drink cocktail hour) but most of all, I love the meaning of weddings and how happy it makes other people, including myself, feel. But what happens when the wedding is over?– the honeymoon comes and goes just like that, but then what? The bills roll in and somehow it seems that people forget that you can still make that feeling on that special evening continue and last a life time. Celebrating that milestone whether it be yearly or longer will help reignite that spark and remind you that you are married to your best freaking friend and you should celebrate that shit every chance you can. ;)
Modern Day Anniversary Gift Ideas
1. A memorable trip – go back to your first date, where you said I love you, where you held her hair when she was throwing up from too many lemon drops (actually, maybe that wouldn’t be a good idea…), or someplace completely new where the both of you have never been. Making memories is a great reminder of your love and life together.
2. Some alone time – okay, don’t freak out. But yes, apparently, it’s like, good for you or something, to have “alone” time. But maybe surprise your spouse with a round of golf (or 18? I’m too lazy to look up the actual terminology for that LOL – actually, side note: the 19th hole is evidently the lounge or restaurant at the course, SCORE!). OR surprise your spouse with a day at the spa or whatever he/she is in to. Just make it a surprise and completely unexpected or out of the blue.
3. Something super simple – you have to really dig deep for this but sometimes less is totally more. Her favorite flowers, a new pair of work boots/new wallet, alone time together doing nothing, a picnic, or doing something you guys used to do as teenagers, be creative!
4. Something vintage or that holds a lot of meaning – is your boo a history buff or lover of all things vintage and old? This would be a great trip, even; scour the area or take a day trip to old flea markets or antique shops (my fave) and ask locals for places that hold a lot of history of a place you both traveled to together for the first time.
5. Leather goods – this is one of my favorite gift ideas because it only gets better with age. Leather is beautiful and if the end product is made well, it will last forever and will provide years of memories and use. My favorite is a handmade wallet or better yet, a duffle bag, satchel or messenger bag. Mahi leather (adopted their name from the Mahi River in India) is an amazing UK based company with a mission to help – their products are all hand-made and with every purchase, they donate $1.50 to the Frank Water Project, providing clean water to hundreds (the number is growing!) of deserving natives in India. A company providing gorgeous leather hand-made goods while helping a wonderful cause will definitely make a lasting impression for years to come.
*A little unknown fact that you might not be aware of – leather is traditionally given as a 3rd wedding anniversary gift (crazy, right!?). Traditionally, leather is given as a 3rd year anniversary gift and has been that way since the 19th century – cool right! So not only are you giving a gorgeous gift, you are giving him/her a piece of history ;)
Traditional Wedding Anniversary Customary Gift Ideas
Year 1: Paper – “um paper?” You might be asking… don’t think you should give your loved ones a legal pad and call it a day. Paper is symbolic of your blank canvas, your fresh start as a newly married couple. Give something with meaning: a favorite book, a beautiful planner, a sketch pad if your boo is an artist. Get even more personal and write something in it that will bring a tear (or two) to your loved one.
Year 2: Cotton – you can get matching bath robes, a new tie, a new blouse, new bedding … the list goes on. And of course, you can always personalize these gifts (or any gift, really) if you want to make it super special.
Year 3: Like I have mentioned above, leather is the 3rd year wedding anniversary gift idea. Up until recently, I had no idea that there were customary gifts (I mean really, you don’t have to get people ‘gifts’ but even the smallest of gifts will make a big impression) for wedding anniversaries but if you are in the spirit of gifting, leather is the 3rd year gift and really, the possibilities are endless! Head over to Mahi Leather for beautiful customizable leather goods for every and all occasions, or you can get a leather watch, flask, desk set … whatever your heart desires!
Year 4: Flowers/Fruit – The customary traditional gift idea is centered around flowers. If your man doesn’t like flowers, try opting for a ‘manly’ fruit/floral scented candles (there are SO MANY options, just do a little research!) or if you/both like to garden, you can do it together or surprise him/her with a beautiful garden already planted and watch your love grow (sorry, I am so cheesy).
Year 5: Wood – I love the idea of wooden gifts. The natural beauty is something you won’t find in many other products and the fact that you can transform it into so many different ways leaves so much room for the imagination. Engraved jewelry boxes, sculptures, picture frames, furniture, coasters, art (yes, art!), bookends, lamps .. the list goes on. Or if you are super crafty, you can make something!
Alright you love birds, get out of here and get a room!